Double Standard: False Allegations

🚨 URGENT: Double Standard - False Allegations Pattern

CRITICAL PRIORITY - Nov 29, 2025 Escalation

Pattern: Ms. Attar weaponizes what Isabella says on FaceTime when it serves litigation strategy, while ignoring/excusing actual evidence of coaching and alienation when she is the source.

SETTLEMENT VIOLATION

Art. XI, §B, p.24 — "Neither parent shall do anything that may estrange the Child from either parent or hamper the free and natural development of the Child's love and respect for both parents."
Art. XI, §F, p.17 — Requires truthful, cooperative communication - not fabricated allegations
Art. XI, §T, p.29 — Requires facilitating reasonable communication, not weaponizing what child says

📊 THE CONTRAST

What Isabella Said	When	Parent's Response	Impact
"You're not my dad anymore" During normal FaceTime, Isabella said this after 114-minute delay (Rima kept her out late on school night). Ms. Attar's intervention: "Oh! What is that?" (passive). Coached apology, then immediate hang-up.	Nov 9 (Sun) 7:19+ PM FaceTime	Mr. Moukdad: No escalation, no threats, continued good faith communication Asked about Isabella's well-being next day when she missed school	Next day: Isabella missed school Monday (too tired from late Sunday night) Mr. Moukdad: "Is Isabella okay? How is she?" Ms. Attar: "I never question yours, so don't question mine." (defensive, never answered question)
"I don't want to be your daughter anymore!!" (3 times in 14 seconds) During homework discussion, Isabella yelled "I told you plenty of times!" Sam calmly asked why she's yelling. Isabella then said "I don't want to be your daughter anymore" THREE TIMES, getting more emphatic, then hung up. Ms. Attar's intervention: said "Isabella" once. After hang-up, excused behavior: "No one understood what you were saying. It wasn't on purpose."	Nov 11 (Tue) 6:30 PM FaceTime (1-hour delay)	Mr. Moukdad: Called back immediately, recovered call with Saska puppet + engaging motorcycle story Turned extreme alienation into 21-minute positive conversation ending warmly	Ms. Attar acknowledged Sam saved the call: "That was fun. Kind of saved it, too." NO concern about Isabella's psychological well-being. NO email to PC. NO therapy announcement.
"My dad told me not to tell you" During Rima's FaceTime call, after Rima called Isabella "a little witch" (refused to apologize), threatened hot sauce, and coached her to "always tell me everything, no matter what." Mr. Moukdad denied on camera and stayed completely silent (only 12 brief responses in 18-minute call). Isabella wanted to hang up 5 times (not Sam telling her to).	Nov 29 (Fri) 3:28 PM FaceTime	Ms. Attar: 104-minute coordinated campaign ⚠️ Admitted having recording (3:51 PM) 🚨 Sent PC email with FALSE allegations (5:12 PM): "repeatedly telling her to hang up" (provably false) ⚖️ Unilateral therapy announcement ⚖️ Modification threats ⚖️ Blames Sam for "messing her up psychologically"	This emergency PC escalation Based on statement Rima KNOWS is false (she has recording proving Sam denied it and stayed silent)

❓ Questions Ms. Attar Needs to Answer

If Ms. Attar is genuinely concerned about Isabella's psychological well-being, she should explain:

Why did Isabella reject her father twice in one week ("you're not my dad anymore" + "I don't want to be your daughter anymore" three times) and Ms. Attar did nothing about it?
Why did Ms. Attar keep Isabella out late Sunday night before a school day, resulting in Isabella being too tired to attend school Monday?
Why, when Mr. Moukdad asked "Is Isabella okay? How is she?" after Isabella missed school, did Ms. Attar respond with "I never question yours, so don't question mine" instead of simply telling him how their daughter was doing?
What exactly does Ms. Attar mean by "I never question yours" when Mr. Moukdad has never given her a reason to question his parenting decisions regarding school attendance?
Why does Isabella's extreme alienating statements to Mr. Moukdad (two incidents in one week, including a missed school day) warrant ZERO concern from Ms. Attar, but Isabella's single statement to her (which Mr. Moukdad denied on camera and then stayed silent) warrants threatening emails, false allegations to the PC, unilateral therapy announcements, and modification threats?

🎯 THE PATTERN IS CLEAR

Ms. Attar is not concerned about Isabella's psychological well-being.

If she were, she would have:

Intervened when Isabella said "you're not my dad anymore"
Not kept Isabella out late before a school day
Not caused Isabella to miss school due to being "cranky and tired"
Answered Mr. Moukdad's question about how Isabella was doing instead of deflecting
Not fabricated allegations about what Mr. Moukdad said during FaceTime

Instead, Ms. Attar weaponizes Isabella's statements when it serves her litigation strategy, while ignoring actual evidence of coaching, alienation, and poor parenting decisions that directly harm Isabella's education.

The Pattern:

When Isabella says something that can be used against Mr. Moukdad → Emergency escalation, false allegations, legal threats
When Isabella says something that reflects poorly on Ms. Attar's parenting → Silence, deflection, "don't question me"

3:28 PM - FaceTime Call Begins (Rima's Designated Daily Call)

FIRST 10 MINUTES: Rima Creates Conflict

[10:27 min] RIMA calls Isabella "a little witch":

RIMA: "Not scary but you look like a little witch." (Line 463)
ISABELLA (upset): "I'm not a little witch!" (Line 466)
RIMA (doubles down): "I want to be a witch too." (Line 478 - NO apology)
ISABELLA (still upset): "I'm not a witch!" (Line 582)
RIMA (dismissive): "Okay, fine. Okay, you're not a witch." (Line 584 - not apologetic)

Isabella tries to hang up MULTIPLE times after witch comment:

Line 487: "Bye! I'm hanging up."
Line 635: "Bye."
Line 641: "BYE!" (emphatic)
Line 647 (to Sam): "Baba I don't know how to hang up."
Line 719 (to Sam): "I don't know how, baba."

[Line 533] RIMA threatens Isabella with hot sauce:

"You better stick that tongue back in before I put harar on it, okay? I have Frank's hot sauce in my fridge."

Note: This threat has been documented 40+ times in case history - pattern of age-inappropriate coercive control.

[Line 493] RIMA admits SHE caused Isabella's mood shift:

"Honey, you were just, okay, wait, one second, one second. You were just in a good mood until that conversation happened. Can we go back to being in a happy mood, please?"

Rima's own admission: Isabella was happy UNTIL Rima called her a witch and refused to apologize.

8 Minutes After Isabella Got Upset: Rima Coaches Isabella

Isabella expressed distress about telling Rima "too much things" (Lines 339, 351, 357)

8 minutes later [Lines 613-614], RIMA coaches Isabella to ignore that boundary:

"And you should always tell me everything, no matter what, because I'm your mother, okay?"

🚨 COACHING DOCUMENTED

Isabella stated a boundary ("I tell you too much things"). Rima ignored it and coached her to "always tell me everything, no matter what." This is documented interrogation/coaching 8 minutes AFTER creating the upset.

The Allegation: Isabella Makes Statement to Rima

What Isabella Said to Rima:

"My dad told me to not tell you because I tell you everything."

Mr. Moukdad's IMMEDIATE Response (on camera):

"What? Baba where do you come up with these things?"

Isabella doubled down: "You're the one that told me to not tell her."

Mr. Moukdad: "Okay baba i told you" (trying to move on, keep call positive)

Mr. Moukdad then stayed COMPLETELY SILENT for the remainder of the call.

📹 Both parents recorded this call. The recording proves:

Mr. Moukdad denied the statement on camera (Lines 659-662)
Mr. Moukdad stayed silent after his denial
Isabella wanted to hang up (5 attempts documented), NOT Sam telling her to
Rima created the conflict (witch comment, hot sauce threat, coaching)

3:51 PM (23 min after call ended) - Rima Admits Having Recording

Rima's OFW message:

"I have the entire video recorded"

✅ RIMA ADMITS HAVING PROOF

Rima admits having recording that will prove Sam denied the allegation, Isabella wanted to hang up (not Sam telling her to), and Rima caused the upset. She KNOWS the truth before sending PC email.

5:12 PM - Email to PC Jane Pearl

Ms. Attar's Email to Jane Pearl + Tania: [View Full Email]

Key FALSE allegation highlighted:

"After that, her mood went from very happy to see me to completely downright disrespectful after her father was repeatedly telling her to hang up."

🚨 FALSE ALLEGATION

Mr. Moukdad was NOT "repeatedly telling her to hang up." He stayed completely silent after his initial denial. Ms. Attar has the recording proving this.

Also in email:

Announced unilateral therapy decision: "I will be putting Isabella in therapy" (settlement violation - joint decision required)
Announced unilateral settlement amendments: "I will be submitting proposed amendments to the stipulation" (attempting to bypass mutual agreement requirement)
Used possessive "MY daughter" (not "our daughter") when asserting control
Claims grandmother "undermining" her (no specifics, no context)
Addressed PC as "Judge Pearl" (Jane Pearl is PC, not Judge)
Signed "Rima Attar, Esq." (intimidation tactic vs. pro se parent)
Claims Sam is "messing her up psychologically" based on statement she KNOWS is false (she has the recording)

Context: 114-Minute FaceTime Delay

5:25 PM: Mr. Moukdad requested FaceTime (settlement-mandated 5:30 PM Sunday time)

5:27 PM: Ms. Attar: "We're out in a play date right now. Can we do it around 7:15"

5:34 PM: Mr. Moukdad: "I'd like it earlier because tomorrow is a school day"

5:37 PM: Ms. Attar: "Well we're out now. She doesn't go to sleep at that time so it's fine"

7:19+ PM: FaceTime finally occurs (114 minutes late, Sunday before school day)

During FaceTime Call (Under 2 Minutes)

What Isabella Said to Mr. Moukdad:

"You're not my dad anymore."

Ms. Attar's response:

Ms. Attar: "Oh! What is that?" (passive, no meaningful intervention)

Isabella then hung up.

📹 Mr. Moukdad has the full recording of this call.

Nov 10, 8:20 AM - Isabella Misses School

Ms. Attar's OFW notification (AFTER school already started):

"I didn't take Isabella to school today. She was very cranky, tired and stuffy."

Analysis: Predictable result of keeping 5-year-old out late Sunday night before school day. Isabella was tired from Ms. Attar's decision to keep her out until 7:15+ PM, not from illness.

Nov 10, 9:56 AM & 11:31 AM - Mr. Moukdad's Response

9:56 AM: "Good morning Rima. She already missed 3 days of school when she actually was sick two weeks ago. She should not miss school because she is tired or cranky. Thx for letting me know."

11:31 AM: "Is Isabella okay? How is she?"

Nov 10, 11:38 AM - Ms. Attar's Defensive Response

"I'm aware of how many days she missed. I made a judgment call because I saw that she needed to stay home today. I never question yours, so please don't question mine."

🚨 TWO PROBLEMS

1. Never answered Mr. Moukdad's question: "Is Isabella okay? How is she?"

2. "I never question yours" is FALSE: Mr. Moukdad has NEVER caused Isabella to miss school unnecessarily. When Isabella was actually sick in late October, Mr. Moukdad kept her home only after she got sick on Ms. Attar's time. There is nothing for Ms. Attar to question because Mr. Moukdad doesn't make decisions that result in unnecessary missed school days.

Context: Delayed FaceTime + Homework Discussion

5:27 PM: Mr. Moukdad requested FaceTime (settlement-mandated 5:30 PM Tuesday time)

5:33 PM: Ms. Attar: "hi shes playing now so in an hour"

6:30 PM (approx): FaceTime finally connects (1 hour delay)

Pattern: This is the THIRD consecutive day of systematic FaceTime interference (Nov 8, 9, 11). Two days after Nov 9 "you're not my dad anymore" incident, Isabella makes an even more extreme statement.

During Call: Natural Homework Discussion

Isabella: "On many days, I didn't do homework"

Mr. Moukdad: "When?"

Ms. Attar (prompting): "You mean last week when you were with your dad?"

Isabella (looking at Rima): "No, I mean here, at your house"

Mr. Moukdad: "I'm confused, though. I'm saying for tomorrow, you have homework?"

Isabella (frustrated): "I told you plenty of times!" (yelling)

Analysis: Mr. Moukdad is simply trying to understand what Isabella is saying about homework. Isabella becomes frustrated (possibly coached to be evasive). This is a normal parenting conversation.

EXTREME ALIENATION: Three Times in 14 Seconds

What Isabella Said to Mr. Moukdad:

[02:43] Mr. Moukdad: "Why are you yelling Baba? I didn't do anything."

[02:44] ISABELLA: "I don't want to be your daughter anymore!!" (Angrily yells this)

[02:45-02:48] Mr. Moukdad: "What? Isabella... No, why are you yelling, Baba? I didn't do anything."

[02:49] ISABELLA: "I don't want to be your daughter anymore."

[02:51] Mr. Moukdad: "What?"

[02:53] Ms. Attar: "Isabella." (single word, no meaningful intervention)

[02:57] ISABELLA: "I don't want to be your daughter anymore." (Isabella hangs up here)

[02:58] Mr. Moukdad (to himself): "That's pretty aggressive."

🚨 EXTREME ALIENATION

Isabella said "I don't want to be your daughter anymore" THREE TIMES in 14 seconds, getting more emphatic each time, then hung up. This is coached adult language expressing total rejection of her father during a normal homework conversation.

📹 Mr. Moukdad has the full 21-minute recording of this call (transcript lines 1-1118).

Ms. Attar's Response AFTER Isabella Hung Up

What Ms. Attar told Isabella (excusing/minimizing the behavior):

[03:16] RIMA: "I don't know why."
[03:23] RIMA: "No one understood what you were saying." (talking to Isabella)
[03:25] RIMA: "It wasn't on purpose."
[03:31] RIMA: "I don't know."

🚨 EXCUSING ALIENATION

Ms. Attar told Isabella "No one understood what you were saying. It wasn't on purpose" - excusing Isabella's extreme rejection of her father. She did NOT say: "That was wrong. You don't say that to your father. Apologize when we call back."

Mr. Moukdad Calls Back: 18+ Minutes of Positive Engagement

What Mr. Moukdad Did:

Called back immediately (no anger, no retaliation, no escalation)
Engaged Isabella with Saska the stuffed animal puppet character
Told engaging story about motorcycle and baby traffic cone
Recovered the call - turned extreme alienation into 21-minute positive conversation
Ended call warmly: "Love you. Okay, bye, Baba. See you tomorrow."

📹 Full 21-minute recording shows Mr. Moukdad's recovery skills and positive parenting (lines 151-1093).

Ms. Attar's END-OF-CALL Acknowledgment

What Ms. Attar said to Isabella at the END of the call:

[21:06] ISABELLA: "I'm going to hang up, okay?"
[21:06] SAM: "Love you. Okay, bye, Baba. See you tomorrow. Bye."
[21:06] RIMA: "That was fun."
[21:10] RIMA: "Kind of saved it, too."

✅ RIMA ADMITS SAM SAVED THE CALL

Ms. Attar's own words: "Kind of saved it, too." She recognized the call was terrible until Mr. Moukdad recovered it with positive engagement. This proves Ms. Attar KNOWS Isabella's behavior was inappropriate and Mr. Moukdad handled it professionally.

THE DOUBLE STANDARD

When Isabella says extreme alienating statements to Mr. Moukdad (Nov 9 + Nov 11):

Ms. Attar: Minimal intervention ("Isabella" + passive "oh what is that")
Ms. Attar: Excuses behavior ("No one understood what you were saying. It wasn't on purpose")
Ms. Attar: Acknowledges Mr. Moukdad saved the call ("Kind of saved it, too")
Ms. Attar: NO concern about Isabella's psychological well-being
Ms. Attar: NO email to PC
Ms. Attar: NO therapy announcement
Ms. Attar: NO modification threats

When Isabella says something to Ms. Attar (Nov 29):

Ms. Attar: 104-minute coordinated campaign
Ms. Attar: FALSE allegations to PC (claims Mr. Moukdad "repeatedly telling her to hang up" when he stayed silent)
Ms. Attar: Unilateral therapy announcement
Ms. Attar: Modification threats
Ms. Attar: Claims Isabella's statements show Mr. Moukdad is "messing her up psychologically"

The pattern is clear: Ms. Attar weaponizes Isabella's statements when it serves litigation strategy, while excusing/minimizing actual evidence of coaching and alienation when she is the source.

🚨 URGENT: Double Standard - False Allegations Pattern

SETTLEMENT VIOLATION

📊 THE CONTRAST

❓ Questions Ms. Attar Needs to Answer

🎯 THE PATTERN IS CLEAR

📅 November 29, 2025 - FALSE ALLEGATIONS TO PC

📅 November 9, 2025 - "You're Not My Dad Anymore"

📅 November 11, 2025 - "I Don't Want to Be Your Daughter Anymore"

📧 Full Email to PC Jane Pearl - November 29, 2025, 5:12 PM

📜 Settlement Agreement - Article VI (Custody & Best Interests)

📜 Settlement Agreement - Article XI, §F (Good Faith Communication)

📜 Settlement Agreement - Article XI, §T (FaceTime)