F = Father (Samir Moukdad)
M = Mother (Rima Attar)
I = Isabella (Child, age 5)
PC = Parent Coordinator
2025 — CRITICAL OBSERVATION PERIOD
| Date & Time | Verbatim Statement | Immediate Setting | Correlated Event | Objective Analysis |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| 11/29/2025 ~17:30 |
I tell you too much things. | FaceTime call during M's custody. M present in room. I initiated disclosure about privacy. | During scheduled FaceTime. M filed PC complaint within 104 min of call. | Developmentally normal privacy boundary. M's immediate escalation (PC email, therapy announcement) suggests statement threatened information control. AGE-APPROPRIATE |
| 11/26/2025 | Rima doesn't have the nebulizer. | FaceTime or in-person (context unclear). I was ill Nov 23-25. | M emailed Nov 25: "I'll try to give her the nebulizer as well." | I's statement contradicts M's written claim of having nebulizer. F has always provided nebulizer. Factual discrepancy documented. |
| 11/19/2025 | When you get married again and my mom gets married again, I will have a step dad and a step mom.ADULT TERM | F's residence. Unprompted statement while playing with toys. No adults discussing marriage. | Oct 17 PC Session: M admitted I said "stepdads are very evil." | Topic of remarriage/stepparents introduced elsewhere. Age 5 children do not spontaneously discuss remarriage logistics. Reflects adult conversations absorbed from M's household. |
| 11/11/2025 02:04-02:21 |
No, I mean here, at your house.LIVE COACHING | FaceTime call. M present and audible on recording. I discussing homework. | M interjected at 02:04: "You mean last week when you were with your dad?" I contradicted, then self-corrected 14 sec later. | Observable coaching attempt on recording. I's initial truthful answer ("at your house" = M's) contradicted M's redirect. I then changed story after apparent non-verbal cue. Loyalty bind in real-time. |
| 11/11/2025 ~17:30 |
I don't want to be your daughter anymore!!ADULT TERM | FaceTime call. M present. Statement made 3x before I hung up. | Same call as coaching incident. Trigger: M interjected "You mean last week when you were with your dad?" — I's honest answer created loyalty bind. | Extreme rejection statement atypical for age 5. F recovered call with storytelling; 21 min positive interaction followed. Suggests displacement rather than genuine rejection. |
| 11/09/2025 ~19:24 |
I don't have the feelings to talk right now.ADULT TERM | FaceTime call. M's residence. 114-minute delay from scheduled 5:30 PM. Statement made 2x. | Post-transition: 27 hrs after Thu 6:30 PM return to M. Call initiated 114 min late by M. | Phrasing "don't have the feelings" is adult therapeutic language, atypical for age 5. Same call: I said "You're not my dad anymore" and "I'm going to have a bad night." Pattern of distress statements concentrated in post-transition window. |
| 11/09/2025 ~19:24 |
You're not my dad anymore. | FaceTime call. M's residence. Call terminated by I after less than 2 min. | Same call as above. M responded: "Say I'm sorry so I'll never say that again." — directed I to apologize. | Extreme alienation statement. M's response focused on obtaining apology rather than addressing concerning statement. No PC notification from M regarding this statement. |
| 11/04/2025 18:26 |
So you and my mom got married. They were walking together like this 'doo doo do do'. And suddenly they turned into... monsters inc. | FaceTime with F, F's sister Nadine, F's mother. Story-telling with filter. | Post-AFC relief (Oct 22). Post-Isabella removal from TOP (Aug 18). | I initially said "me and her" then looked at M, changed to "me and her mom" with guilty expression. F notes I "hasn't said things about parents getting married in a while" — suggests healing after legal pressures removed. HEALING |
| 10/09/2025 | I want Mom to go because I feel bad for her. | Car ride after school pickup (F). Discussing Book Fair attendance. | Post-transition M→F: Same day as Wed 2 PM pickup. | Statement indicates guilt/loyalty pressure regarding both parents. "Feel bad for her" suggests I perceives M as victim, creating caretaking role reversal. |
| 10/08/2025 | I want you to go to the Book Fair. | FaceTime call. Event discussion. | Day before Book Fair. | Spontaneous desire for F's participation. Absent pressure, I seeks F's involvement in school activities. HEALTHY |
2023 — PATTERN EMERGENCE
| Date & Time | Verbatim Statement | Immediate Setting | Correlated Event | Objective Analysis |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| 10/31/2023 | I wanna stay at baba house. I'm sad and that's not fair. | F's residence. Halloween. Transition day. | Pre-transition F→M. | Clear preference for F's home. Distress about leaving expressed as unfairness. ATTACHMENT |
| 10/15/2023 | what's wrong mama. R u okay? | Unknown setting. I observed M appearing distressed. | Unknown. | Demonstrates empathy toward M. Healthy emotional awareness. EMPATHY |
| 10/05/2023 | Because you hit me. | Conversation during play. Context: Asked "why is the wolf going to eat my butt?" | See Sep 30 "Promise" entry. | Reference to hitting in context of play narrative. Cross-reference with Sep 30 statement: "To never hit me ever again." |
| 09/30/2023 | To never hit me ever again. | I responded to question "Promise what?" | Unknown immediate event. | Unprompted disclosure regarding physical discipline concerns. Location of referenced hitting not specified in log entry. |
| 09/24/2023 | baba is my mommy. | Unknown setting. | Unknown. | Strong attachment statement. I identifies F as primary caregiver figure. ATTACHMENT |
| 09/16/2023 | let me threaten her (Isabella) that if she goes to your house and she acts out that you are going to put her in timeout. | M speaking (not I). Recorded conversation. | Unknown. | M's own words. Admission of threatening I with cross-household punishment. Creates negative anticipation of F's home. M ADMISSION |
| 09/16/2023 | When you are bad at mommies house and you go to baba's house, you are going to be put in timeout. | M speaking to I. Recorded. | Same conversation as above. | M's own words. Direct coaching: Linking I's behavior at M's house to punishment at F's house. Creates fear/anxiety about transitions. M ADMISSION |
| 09/16/2023 | we are going to lose her. | M speaking. Recorded conversation. | Same conversation. | M's own words. Also stated: "I feel like I'm losing her." Reveals M's custody anxiety. Projection of adult fears onto child dynamic. M ADMISSION |
| 07/29/2023 | I'm baba princess. | Unknown setting. | Unknown. | Positive identification with F. ATTACHMENT |
| 07/29/2023 | mommy bad. | Unknown setting. | Unknown. | I's own observation. Note: Not coached by F — F does not speak negatively about M to I. |
| 07/26/2023 | mama said teta and baba bad. | Unknown setting. Unprompted disclosure. | Unknown. | Direct attribution of negative statements to M. I reports M said grandmother ("teta") and F are "bad." Evidence of verbal alienation coaching. COACHING |
| 07/26/2023 | I love my daddy. | Unknown setting. | Same date as coaching disclosure above. | Spontaneous affection statement. Same day as "mama said teta and baba bad" — demonstrates I's natural feelings vs. coached statements. ATTACHMENT |
| 06/29/2023 | baba, I fell at mama house | I reporting to F. | Unknown. | Injury report. Second instance (see Apr 26). |
| 05/28/2023 | I don't want to talk to baba. | Unknown setting. | Unknown. | Early refusal to communicate with F. Pattern of rejection statements. |
| 04/26/2023 | I fall at mama house | I reporting to F. M's response: "she was running and she fell." | Unknown. | Injury report from M's residence. |
PATTERN ANALYSIS
Observable correlations derived from chronological data
Documented Patterns
1. Transition Window Correlation
- Nov 9, 2025: Distress statements 27 hrs post-transition F→M
- Oct 9, 2025: Guilt statement same day as M→F transition
- Oct 31, 2023: Distress pre-transition F→M
- Pattern: Negative statements cluster near transitions; positive statements occur mid-custody periods
2. Adult Terminology Instances
- "I don't have the feelings to talk right now" — therapeutic phrasing
- "I don't want to be your daughter anymore" — legal/dramatic finality
- Discussion of stepparents/remarriage — adult topic
- Pattern: Language sophistication exceeds age 5 developmental norms
3. Response Disparity
- Nov 9 "Not my dad anymore" → No M escalation to PC
- Nov 11 "Don't want to be your daughter" → No M escalation
- Nov 29 "I tell you too much things" → M escalated to PC within 104 min
- Pattern: M escalates only when I's statement disadvantages F or threatens M's information control
4. Live Coaching Evidence
- Nov 11, 2025 (02:04): M interjects during F-I call
- M attempts redirect: "You mean... with your dad?"
- I contradicts: "No, at your house"
- I self-corrects 14 sec later after visual cue
- Pattern: Observable coaching on recording — not inferred
Methodology
Data Source: Statements extracted verbatim from contemporaneous logs. Timestamps derived from log entries; exact times marked with "~" where approximate. Verification: Key incidents (Nov 9, Nov 11) corroborated by audio/video recordings available upon request. Standard Applied: Only verbatim quotes included; no paraphrasing or interpretation of I's intended meaning.